What is love?
There is an old couple lives in front of my house. They are quite decent and loving couple. They have some kids and grandchildren lives nearby their house. Every morning the husband is out of the house, he usually warms up the car and cleans up their small yard. Around 8 in the morning, they usually go somewhere by car.
The interesting part, every morning before they go somewhere, the husband puts the car right in front of the gate and opens the car's door for his wife. After his wife sits safely inside the car, he is the one who locks the doors and gate. Then, they take off somewhere. When they are home, the husband is also the one who opens the gate and doors and the car's door for his wife.
That is definitely an odd small gentlemanly gesture in nowadays. Some couples only do that gentlemanly act only during dating, however usually when they get married or live together in a long term, the sparks are lesser and the needs to treat their spouse well has dwindled and perished. After some times, they start to question 'why on earth I married him or her?' Worse, if we haven't got what we want from our spouse, we start to look around and try to find a substitute in other place. The spark, excitement, love and commitment become burdens that bury someone in marriage. As results, many marriages break up and family are scattered.
Look back at the old nice couple, I think the secret of their successful marriage is both of them are preserving their love by treating their spouse as the most important person on earth. They do the top performance to show their affections in small gestures. They decide to fall in love with their spouse everyday. That's a rarity in this modern times.
We are get used to an 'instant love' with good romps on bed and that's the love that are being ushered by modern medias. We are get used to see that love and lust are good for our health instead of steady and flourished relationship. We may live carefree and bed some partners that we like. We may have preferences in sex and how we live our lives; and live a modern independent life. Don't get me wrong that sex is not important in relationship. It is important. Yet, lust is not love. When we replace love with lust, we will reap the broken heart because lust is only the talking of the bodies, but love is the talking of souls.No matter how much we try to fill our love slot in our heart, it will keep empty since lust can't replace love.
I believe deep inside of our heart, we are an ancient being who yearns for fidelity and true love. We want to be accepted the way we are by someone that we care. We want to be heard. We want to leave a legacy for our surroundings and family. We want to be special for someone. We want to feel that we are special the way we are.
It might not be an easy way to nurture love and fidelity in a relationship. We are scarred inside. We have our flaws, fear, inferiority and self esteem. No instant way in having a strong love. It has to be both sides willingness to unite their bodies, minds and souls in a committed relationship. The excitement of the bodies might die in one or two years but the decision of giving ourselves completely to our spouses, and win them everyday may preserve our love tree. Well.. That's what I thought.
The interesting part, every morning before they go somewhere, the husband puts the car right in front of the gate and opens the car's door for his wife. After his wife sits safely inside the car, he is the one who locks the doors and gate. Then, they take off somewhere. When they are home, the husband is also the one who opens the gate and doors and the car's door for his wife.
That is definitely an odd small gentlemanly gesture in nowadays. Some couples only do that gentlemanly act only during dating, however usually when they get married or live together in a long term, the sparks are lesser and the needs to treat their spouse well has dwindled and perished. After some times, they start to question 'why on earth I married him or her?' Worse, if we haven't got what we want from our spouse, we start to look around and try to find a substitute in other place. The spark, excitement, love and commitment become burdens that bury someone in marriage. As results, many marriages break up and family are scattered.
Look back at the old nice couple, I think the secret of their successful marriage is both of them are preserving their love by treating their spouse as the most important person on earth. They do the top performance to show their affections in small gestures. They decide to fall in love with their spouse everyday. That's a rarity in this modern times.
We are get used to an 'instant love' with good romps on bed and that's the love that are being ushered by modern medias. We are get used to see that love and lust are good for our health instead of steady and flourished relationship. We may live carefree and bed some partners that we like. We may have preferences in sex and how we live our lives; and live a modern independent life. Don't get me wrong that sex is not important in relationship. It is important. Yet, lust is not love. When we replace love with lust, we will reap the broken heart because lust is only the talking of the bodies, but love is the talking of souls.No matter how much we try to fill our love slot in our heart, it will keep empty since lust can't replace love.
I believe deep inside of our heart, we are an ancient being who yearns for fidelity and true love. We want to be accepted the way we are by someone that we care. We want to be heard. We want to leave a legacy for our surroundings and family. We want to be special for someone. We want to feel that we are special the way we are.
It might not be an easy way to nurture love and fidelity in a relationship. We are scarred inside. We have our flaws, fear, inferiority and self esteem. No instant way in having a strong love. It has to be both sides willingness to unite their bodies, minds and souls in a committed relationship. The excitement of the bodies might die in one or two years but the decision of giving ourselves completely to our spouses, and win them everyday may preserve our love tree. Well.. That's what I thought.
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